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May 21Liked by Rolando Andrade

If a parent has not provided enough caring affirmations to a child, is there a way that they can make up for it when the child is an adult with low self-esteem?

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Hi Jo. It really depends on people's personalities. We can't forget about perception, that is, what each person pays attention to, regardless of what they're told. It's very difficult to change what was ingrained in childhood

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May 22Liked by Rolando Andrade

True...I'm living Proof of that.😔😒

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Sorry Deea. Wish you can look dig inside yourself to find your self-esteem spark

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Brilliant explanation!

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May 20Liked by Rolando Andrade

In my short answer to your question, it is a gentle confidence, including compassion for oneself and others and excluding ego. Your thorough description is preferred.

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Thank you for the article.

Self-esteem for me is being content with one’s Self.

Feels like an absence of anxiety, fortified with invisible boundaries, yet erected as needed, and protecting what one has worked so hard for. It can be developed, lost, and found. The owner its sole proprietor. An artwork with different meanings for onlookers, but the true meaning only known to the artist. It is content with existing as it was created.

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Thanks for your comment. You raise important questions like the absence of anxiety. I never thought about that. I appreciate your insight

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"True self-esteem doesn't depend on third parties, it's not given or taken away, it's within each person, like a solid and resistant block, making people able to face all difficulties with determination, and curiously, able to ask for help whenever they feel they need it, without feeling that this makes them vulnerable or belittles them." I like the comparison you make with the seed. I still think, we do depend on third parties for self-esteem preservation to some extent. If there is no water, no nourishment in the soil, no support system, it is very hard to be self sufficient and self supplying nourishment, water and all the support all the time. I'm relating to the times I've been in an environment where there is complete lack of any support whatsoever. That's when no matter how much supply of self esteem there is, it gets chipped away. How do you replenish and nurture and manage?

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